Anne's kindest words!

The following is what my friend Anne wrote to me in the comments section of the post "Infertility my land of captivity!" I feel compelled to bring this post forward because I see so much truth in it!

Anne and her husband had many years of infertility. She also has PCOS. Lost her first baby, and eventually, through much effort has been blessed with a beautiful daughter! Kevin and I have known Sean and Anne since before either of us got married. Through the years it's been interesting seeing the journey's God is carrying us along, and how through our sorrows we are able to be helpers to each other.

Please take a moment to take to heart Anne's words. These are things I believe myself and I appreciate that she wrote them. Anne is someone who, while she isn't a childless mother, is blessed with a genuine sensitivity for her friends still longing for children, she hasn't pushed aside the struggle it took for her to get where she is now.

Crystal, you have eloquently stated the heart cry of so many women! Thanks so much for sharing. Even being on the 'other side' of IF, I still can't answer those the 'Why?'... it still haunts me. I have no answers, but I wish I could give you a big hug right now and encourage you.
Please don't worry about bringing others down!! If you can't be honest with your friends, without feeling judged or worrying they'll feel awkward, are they truly friends?? We live in a society that has a false sense of happiness - that is not the only valid emotion. And I personally think that it's the uncomfortable, awkward things that can help us grow. Society and The Church (!!!!) need to be aware of what goes on in the heart of an infertile young woman. A young married couple having kids is the accepted norm, and there are so many unbiblical and (I think) evil assumptions about IF in the church. The only way we will find the support we need and be able to reach out to others experiencing the same heartbreak is to share our story, share the depths and truth of the grief we encounter. It's a dangerous place to travel, because you will suffer rejection and misunderstanding and judgment. But there is a level of healing in sharing what's on your heart! And you will find the reward of friendship in places you didn't expect!!
With regards to the dream... I pray that it is fulfilled soon. And don't rule out adoption because of it! The friends I have that have adopted see those children as the children of their own flesh and heart. There is no difference to them. Despite my own doubts and unbelief, I DO believe that God can do miracles (Lord, I believe! Help me in my unbelief! Mark 9:24). Keep seeking His heart. Take steps of faith. It is the Lord who directs your path. (Prov 3:5,6; 16:9)
Love you!

Here is what I wrote back to Anne for her dear love and friendship.

"YOU ARE AN AMAZING FRIEND! THANK YOU for the kind and heartfelt comment on my blog post regarding my dreams and infertility. You're loving support is a God given gift to me! You're words of support brought tears to my eyes. Your story gives me hope for my own journey. I truly appreciate that you know the depth of the pain and darkness of such a struggle and you still love and support those you know suffering.
Thank you for your love!
Love,
Crystal"